It’s only natural that, as relationships progress, we start to take each
other for granted. You may feel resentful that your partner
doesn’t pay you compliments the way he/she used to, and has taken to
nagging you about every little thing, or just ignoring you most of the
time. So if the situation changes, you suddenly notice that he/she is
buying you gifts, easing up on the nagging and giving you a lot more of
that “alone time” you’ve been craving, your first instinct may be
relief. In reality, however, a sudden, drastic change in your partner’s
behavior (even seemingly positive changes) may be a red flag that
he/she is cheating on you. Like i said "MAY BE" not definite.
Infidelity can destroy any happy relationship [Read:
WAYS TO DEAL WITH A CHEATING MATE],
so
if you’re getting signals that your spouse may be cheating, you should
pay attention. It may turn out that your partner is as faithful as the
sun, but if you get that sneaking feeling that things are almost too
perfect, it's natural to be curious. If there’s been a noticeable shift
in the dynamics of your relationship like if he/she spends less time
with you, and asks you for less advice than she used to; it may be that
he/she is going to someone else to have those needs met.
If,
after doing a little careful detective work, you discover that he/she is
cheating on you, don’t immediately fly off the handle (to react in a very angry way to something someone says or does). It may be
tempting to jump ship (quit) and give up on the relationship, that’s not a
solution to the problem. It doesn’t change the fact that you love this
man/woman and, perhaps, his/her infidelity is a symptom of problems in the
relationship to which you contributed.
If
you take time to examine why he/she strayed, you may find that you aren't
the only victim in the relationship. Does he/she have physical emotional
needs that you’ve been unable to meet? Has he/she tried to discuss his/her
feelings with you, but you failed to consider his/her feelings? If so, it
shouldn’t be entirely surprising that he/she found comfort with another. If
there have been unresolved problems in your relationship that
encouraged him/her to be unfaithful, you should seriously consider working
with him/her to fix them, rather than walking out on him/her in a
fit of anger and causing even more pain to you both.
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