SIGNS HE'S NOT JUST INTO YOU

Yes, the old clichés are true: the truth hurts and it also sets you free. Here are signs that he’s not just into you.

*He says he’s not relationship material.

Listen to what he says. If he says that he’s not looking for a relationship, he doesn’t believe in marriage, he’s not relationship material, or he’s just “having fun,” don’t try to read beyond those words. Either he’s not into you, or he’s not into commitment in general. Take him at his word and move on to someone who values relationships the way you do.

*He encourages you to date other people.

If your date encourages you to date other people, it’s not because he wants to experience the enlightenment that comes with multiple dinner-plans partners; he’s just not into you enough to want you all to himself. If he’s still dating other people and you’re at a stage where you feel you should be exclusive, then he’s not ready to commit to anyone. If he talks about those other girls, then he tells them about you, too. A man who is into you will want you exclusively and would be incredibly uncomfortable at the thought of you making romantic plans with other men.

*He won’t hold your hand in public.

You kiss in private, but he won’t go near you when you’re out in public. If he doesn’t want people to think you’re a couple, he probably introduces you to people you run into as his “friend,” right? you probably aren’t one, or shouldn’t be. You want to be with someone who’s proud to be associated with you.

*He avoids introducing you to his friends and family.

If he neglects to meet your family or don't want you to meet his parents, he’s probably not into you; especially if you’ve been dating for a while. No, you don’t need to meet Mom and Dad after date two, but when you sense an avoidance strategy, he likely has one foot out the door. A guy who’s nuts about you will want his family and best friends to know how great you are, too.

*He doesn’t return calls within 24 hours.

First, if you’re the only person calling and texting, evaluate your date’s interest in the relationship. Secondly, if your texts are consistently not getting responses within 24 hours, he’s not into you. When you’re crazy about someone, you can find thirty seconds to respond, even if it’s just a quick explanation as to why he’ll have to respond in greater detail later. Don’t hound the object of your affection, but expect him to be respectful enough to respond when you try to contact him.


Biggest red flag ever: If he doesn’t actually ask you out, he’s not into you. A man who wants you will make sure you know it. [Read:85 FACTS ABOUT GUYS]

Looking back, what were signs in your past relationship that he wasn't interested? How long did it take you to see the red flags?
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WHEN SHOULD YOU LET GO OF A RELATIONSHIP?

There are different reasons to let go of a relationship and walk away. Here are 10 reasons why a relationship may be doomed to failure and pain. And if you find yourself experiencing any of these symptoms, perhaps it’s time to end your romance.

#1. You’re convinced that you can never have a happy ending.

#2. It’s a complicated relationship.

#3. You think you’re way better than your partner and deserve someone who treats you better.

#4. You don’t respect your partner or your partner doesn’t respect you.

#5. Your partner constantly cheats on you, even after getting caught. [Read:HOW TO LET GO OF A RELATIONSHIP THAT IS BAD]

#6. You’re being taken for granted by your lover.

#7. There’s no focus on your life and your wants in the relationship.

#8. When you’re not ready for the relationship and the commitments it requires.

#9. You don’t trust your partner anymore. [Read:SIGNS HE'S NOT JUST INTO YOU]

#10. If you’re constantly frustrated and you don’t know why.

Prepare yourself for what could happen after you let go of the relationship.
You may meet someone who loves you and treats you better. You may be happier than you could ever imagine.

On the other hand, your lover too may date someone else, may spread rumors or even stalk you. Think of possible future scenarios and work your own solutions to how you would want to handle it. It’s always better to be prepared for anything the world throws at you after you let go of the relationship.

If you make a conscious effort to get over it, you can. Learn to walk away and the rest of your life will sort itself out.

If you ever find yourself having second thoughts about getting back with your ex again, try to weigh the pros and cons. Remind yourself of the reasons for breaking up and ask yourself if you’re ready to face those same frustrations all over again.
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HOW TO LET GO OF A RELATIONSHIP THAT IS BAD

At times, a relationship can do more harm than good for you. Recognize the signs and understand how to let go of a relationship that’s bad for you.
Relationships are always a happy experience.
Well, until things start to go bad.
That’s when a beautiful relationship can actually bring your life to a standstill and trick you into a world of complications and pain.
Are you in a relationship where you’re not experiencing the happiness you think you deserve?
If you think it, there’s a good chance that it’s true.

The funny thing about relationships is that it’s all in your head.
A relationship is over when you think it’s over.
If you’re not as happy as you think you should be in a relationship, you should let go even if you still love that person. [Read:WHEN SHOULD YOU LET GO OF A RELATIONSHIP?]
It’s that simple really.
You’re not being selfish. You’re doing both of you a favor.
It’s always better to let go of a bad relationship than hold on when you see no happiness at the end of the tunnel.

If you want to understand the different ways to let go of a relationship, use these nine steps and follow the way.

1. If you want to let go of someone you love, you have to understand the real reasons behind why you think your relationship is making you unhappy. The question is Why should it end?

2. If you’re in a relationship where you’re doing all the work while your partner is just coasting along on the ride, that’s never a good sign. If you are willing to take a chance, give your relationship one last chance to fix it. The question is Can you fix it?

3. Don’t try too hard to bring the old romance back. It’s not worth it. Love should be effortless and mutual, and even if you try to force it, it’ll just slip away again, causing you more pain. Don’t Coerce Love! [Read:SIGNS HE'S NOT JUST INTO YOU]

4. Ask yourself why you’re holding on to a relationship where you see no future in it? Are you still in love or are you just afraid of being single again? The question is Is it love or fear?

5. Breaking up is never easy i know but you have to go. And it takes courage to take a decision that can make such a big change in your life. We all love stability in our lives, even if it’s a bad life. But just because you’re getting used to a certain routine doesn't mean it’s a good thing for you. Be courageous!

6. Prepare yourself for the loneliness and the pain after breaking up, especially if you still have a soft spot for this person. To face loneliness is one of the hardest things but you’ll never really know what life has in store for you unless you take that bold step. Be Strong.

7. Write a list of reasons on a piece of paper and look at it now and then, until you’re completely convinced so you don’t regret it or go back on your words again. Unless you’re convinced about your decision, it’ll only leave you confused and sad. Accept your decision completely.

8.  If you’re sure you don’t want to be in a relationship with your lover, you have to learn to face the end. Once you’re sure you have the strength to let go of the relationship, end it. I say "End the relationship!"

Letting go of a relationship can seem very difficult when you look your partner in the eyes for that final conversation, but as soon as you speak up and walk away from your new ex, you’ll feel a heavy burden lift itself off your chest.

If you feel like ending a relationship because it’s draining the energgy happiness out of your life, remember these tips on how to let go of a relationship to help you walk away happier and lead a better life. -->

15 REASONS WHY MEN CHEAT ON WOMEN

As a woman, you can’t fix all the reasons why a man cheats. But if you look at these reasons, you’d see that almost always, a man cheats when the relationship is getting worse for both of you. And sometimes, it’s easier to just walk away from a cheater instead of trying to change yourself and become someone else, just to hold on to a man who’s waiting to leave you and walk into another woman’s arms, time and again. [Read:WHY DO MEN WANT TO CHEAT?]

There are several reasons why a man may actually end up having an affair with another woman. Here are 27 reasons that could lead a man to stray into another woman’s arms.

1. Respect: If a man truly cares about his relationship the way he cares about his  own life, he’d avoid doing anything that may jeopardize it. For a relationship to succeed, a man needs respect from his woman and a woman needs unconditional love from a man. If the woman doesn't respect him, he’ll fall for someone who respects him. A man may cheat when he believes that he’s not getting the respect he deserves from his woman.

2. Problems in the relationship: When arguments crop up all the time with no conclusive happy endings to the fight, it may leave both of you frustrated. The question is Do you and your man argue often?

3. Frustrations: A man who’s frustrated in life for any reason at all could jump into another woman’s arms just to convince himself that he’s still awesome and can get what he desires.

4. To get back at his woman: Sometimes, even if it’s the dumbest thing to do, a man will use revenge sex to get back at his wife or girlfriend for something she’s done.

5. Too much control over him: Are you a control freak who loves having everything under control? Does your man usually do whatever you suggest? Does he back away from any conflict with you? He may go looking for an affair just to be manly.

6. He thinks the relationship won't last: A guy usually has a backup girlfriend in mind just in case things don’t work out between the both of you, even if he tells no one else about it. It’s usually a friend who’s attractive and rather friendly. And at times, this backup girl may just end up taking your place in between the sheets.

7. He wants more Love: Sometimes, a man’s heart wants all the love it can handle. And that may happen to include more than the love of just one woman. If he’s a romantic Casanova he may try to woo women all the time, just to feel good about all the love he experiences in the world.

8. He doesn't want to be Committed : A lot of guys have the fear of commitment. And just when they feel like they’re falling deeply in love, they pull back or they have an affair just to convince themselves that they’re not into you.

9. They want variety: All of us want new experiences all the time, but some selfish and immature men take this adage one step too far and start looking at other women as wooing potentials, not because they’re unhappy in love, but because they want more variety in their bed!

10. He wants a new experience: A guy may be the most loyal of lovers, and he may be the perfect boyfriend or husband. But at times, for no reason at all, he may start pursuing a new girl just to remember how the thrill of the chase feels like. If both of you start to feel bored in the relationship, it’s only a matter of time before one of you start straying just to make life feel more exciting.

11. Some men loves to cheat: It’s who they are. And there’s nothing you can do to change them. It could be a deep rooted psychological issue, or perhaps they just don’t care about relationships.

12. Understanding: There can be happiness in a marriage or a relationship only when there’s communication in a relationship. If your man feels like you just don’t understand him anymore, he may find himself getting attached to someone else who listens to him.

13 You’re boring: Are you a prude who doesn't like discussing sex? Or are you a homely woman who loves her solitude? If your man has an active lifestyle and you don’t share an interest in socializing or having fun outside the house, he may start to find you too boring to stay in love with.

14. You accuse him of cheating: Do you constantly accuse your man of cheating just so he can reassure you and convince you of his love for you? Don’t ever let your insecurity get the better of you unless you have conclusive proof, or you’d just end up forcing him into an affair because he thinks you don’t trust him anyway.

15. A girl is crazy about him: When a really attractive girl falls for a guy and pleads with him to date her or bed her, a man’s macho heart may soften and get mushy, and he may even share a few kisses or cuddles in bed just to make her feel better.

Men and women cheat for almost the same reasons. I’d say that men cheat more for sexual pleasure and sexual experiences while women cheat more for emotional attachment. -->

WHY DO MEN WANT TO CHEAT?

As much as I hate to admit it, men do have a natural instinct to stray.
If they think they can get away with cheating, they cheat.
It’s what their mind tells them to do, even if their conscience tells them otherwise.

A man of principles though, a man who has integrity, may hold himself back even when the opportunity arises. But he holds himself back, not because he doesn't like the thought of having another woman, he holds himself back only because of his integrity.
But truth be told, it is very hard to avoid cheating, especially if no one would ever get to know the truth!

It’s been said time and again that one would never cheat if they’re truly in love with someone.
But is that really true?
If you think about it, you don’t cheat because you’re emotionally carried away in the heat of the moment.
If that moment of lusty temptation does occur, it’s a painful but forgivable accident that lasts for a few passionate seconds.But he holds himself back, not because he doesn't like the thought of having another woman, he holds himself back only because of his integrity.
But truth be told, it IS very hard to avoid cheating, especially if no one would ever get to know the truth!
But if one chooses to cheat or have sex on a one night stand, it’s because they consciously and deliberately decide to have an affair or a onetime fling, and logically plan every step to ensure that they don’t get caught with their boxers around their ankles.

Seriously, any guy or girl who’s ever cheated would know this, cheating is just not easy, especially if you’re living in a society like ours where cheating is considered taboo.
It takes a lot of planning, a lot of covering up (faking expenses, faking work hours and faking weekend escapes and a lot more!) just to enjoy an hour or so of sexual pleasure that turns to guilt as soon as you orgasm and reach for the skies.
So when a guy makes the effort to cheat, it surely means there’s something wrong somewhere else. [Read:15 REASONS WHY MEN CHEAT ON WOMEN] The cause could be a failing relationship or a mind that’s addicted to the thrill of straying.
Or worse, it could mean that he’s so smitten by another woman that he doesn't care about his own lover who loves him and cares for him, and he’s willing to throw it all away for someone else.

Every man and woman in a relationship has the ability to cheat and destroy a relationship if they choose to. But the rules of society have altered our minds to accept cheating as a moral aberration in our conscience. But unless you have no moral conscience whatsoever, guilt inevitably enters the picture when you cheat on a lover. And you can’t ever look at your lover the way you once did.

Men who are in stable and comfortable relationships want to cheat for three primary reasons.

#1. There’s not enough happiness in his life. The man who wants to cheat thinks he’s too good for the woman he’s with *he thinks he can get another girl who’s better than his own woman*.

#2. He contemplates cheating if his ego is bruised *his woman doesn't respect him, doesn't think highly of him, doesn't need him emotionally or sexually, or his pride hurts because of her behavior*.

#3. The third reason why men want to cheat completes the rest of the list. Men want to cheat because they assume they can get away with it without getting caught.

If one partners feels like they’re not getting enough out of the relationship, or if the other partner feels like they’re giving more than they’re receiving, the relationship may change course towards the inevitable end or lead one partner to the lusty and cowardly road of affairs and one night stands. -->