WHEN SHOULD YOU LET GO OF A RELATIONSHIP?

There are different reasons to let go of a relationship and walk away. Here are 10 reasons why a relationship may be doomed to failure and pain. And if you find yourself experiencing any of these symptoms, perhaps it’s time to end your romance.

#1. You’re convinced that you can never have a happy ending.

#2. It’s a complicated relationship.

#3. You think you’re way better than your partner and deserve someone who treats you better.

#4. You don’t respect your partner or your partner doesn’t respect you.

#5. Your partner constantly cheats on you, even after getting caught. [Read:HOW TO LET GO OF A RELATIONSHIP THAT IS BAD]

#6. You’re being taken for granted by your lover.

#7. There’s no focus on your life and your wants in the relationship.

#8. When you’re not ready for the relationship and the commitments it requires.

#9. You don’t trust your partner anymore. [Read:SIGNS HE'S NOT JUST INTO YOU]

#10. If you’re constantly frustrated and you don’t know why.

Prepare yourself for what could happen after you let go of the relationship.
You may meet someone who loves you and treats you better. You may be happier than you could ever imagine.

On the other hand, your lover too may date someone else, may spread rumors or even stalk you. Think of possible future scenarios and work your own solutions to how you would want to handle it. It’s always better to be prepared for anything the world throws at you after you let go of the relationship.

If you make a conscious effort to get over it, you can. Learn to walk away and the rest of your life will sort itself out.

If you ever find yourself having second thoughts about getting back with your ex again, try to weigh the pros and cons. Remind yourself of the reasons for breaking up and ask yourself if you’re ready to face those same frustrations all over again.
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HOW TO LET GO OF A RELATIONSHIP THAT IS BAD

At times, a relationship can do more harm than good for you. Recognize the signs and understand how to let go of a relationship that’s bad for you.
Relationships are always a happy experience.
Well, until things start to go bad.
That’s when a beautiful relationship can actually bring your life to a standstill and trick you into a world of complications and pain.
Are you in a relationship where you’re not experiencing the happiness you think you deserve?
If you think it, there’s a good chance that it’s true.

The funny thing about relationships is that it’s all in your head.
A relationship is over when you think it’s over.
If you’re not as happy as you think you should be in a relationship, you should let go even if you still love that person. [Read:WHEN SHOULD YOU LET GO OF A RELATIONSHIP?]
It’s that simple really.
You’re not being selfish. You’re doing both of you a favor.
It’s always better to let go of a bad relationship than hold on when you see no happiness at the end of the tunnel.

If you want to understand the different ways to let go of a relationship, use these nine steps and follow the way.

1. If you want to let go of someone you love, you have to understand the real reasons behind why you think your relationship is making you unhappy. The question is Why should it end?

2. If you’re in a relationship where you’re doing all the work while your partner is just coasting along on the ride, that’s never a good sign. If you are willing to take a chance, give your relationship one last chance to fix it. The question is Can you fix it?

3. Don’t try too hard to bring the old romance back. It’s not worth it. Love should be effortless and mutual, and even if you try to force it, it’ll just slip away again, causing you more pain. Don’t Coerce Love! [Read:SIGNS HE'S NOT JUST INTO YOU]

4. Ask yourself why you’re holding on to a relationship where you see no future in it? Are you still in love or are you just afraid of being single again? The question is Is it love or fear?

5. Breaking up is never easy i know but you have to go. And it takes courage to take a decision that can make such a big change in your life. We all love stability in our lives, even if it’s a bad life. But just because you’re getting used to a certain routine doesn't mean it’s a good thing for you. Be courageous!

6. Prepare yourself for the loneliness and the pain after breaking up, especially if you still have a soft spot for this person. To face loneliness is one of the hardest things but you’ll never really know what life has in store for you unless you take that bold step. Be Strong.

7. Write a list of reasons on a piece of paper and look at it now and then, until you’re completely convinced so you don’t regret it or go back on your words again. Unless you’re convinced about your decision, it’ll only leave you confused and sad. Accept your decision completely.

8.  If you’re sure you don’t want to be in a relationship with your lover, you have to learn to face the end. Once you’re sure you have the strength to let go of the relationship, end it. I say "End the relationship!"

Letting go of a relationship can seem very difficult when you look your partner in the eyes for that final conversation, but as soon as you speak up and walk away from your new ex, you’ll feel a heavy burden lift itself off your chest.

If you feel like ending a relationship because it’s draining the energgy happiness out of your life, remember these tips on how to let go of a relationship to help you walk away happier and lead a better life. -->

15 REASONS WHY MEN CHEAT ON WOMEN

As a woman, you can’t fix all the reasons why a man cheats. But if you look at these reasons, you’d see that almost always, a man cheats when the relationship is getting worse for both of you. And sometimes, it’s easier to just walk away from a cheater instead of trying to change yourself and become someone else, just to hold on to a man who’s waiting to leave you and walk into another woman’s arms, time and again. [Read:WHY DO MEN WANT TO CHEAT?]

There are several reasons why a man may actually end up having an affair with another woman. Here are 27 reasons that could lead a man to stray into another woman’s arms.

1. Respect: If a man truly cares about his relationship the way he cares about his  own life, he’d avoid doing anything that may jeopardize it. For a relationship to succeed, a man needs respect from his woman and a woman needs unconditional love from a man. If the woman doesn't respect him, he’ll fall for someone who respects him. A man may cheat when he believes that he’s not getting the respect he deserves from his woman.

2. Problems in the relationship: When arguments crop up all the time with no conclusive happy endings to the fight, it may leave both of you frustrated. The question is Do you and your man argue often?

3. Frustrations: A man who’s frustrated in life for any reason at all could jump into another woman’s arms just to convince himself that he’s still awesome and can get what he desires.

4. To get back at his woman: Sometimes, even if it’s the dumbest thing to do, a man will use revenge sex to get back at his wife or girlfriend for something she’s done.

5. Too much control over him: Are you a control freak who loves having everything under control? Does your man usually do whatever you suggest? Does he back away from any conflict with you? He may go looking for an affair just to be manly.

6. He thinks the relationship won't last: A guy usually has a backup girlfriend in mind just in case things don’t work out between the both of you, even if he tells no one else about it. It’s usually a friend who’s attractive and rather friendly. And at times, this backup girl may just end up taking your place in between the sheets.

7. He wants more Love: Sometimes, a man’s heart wants all the love it can handle. And that may happen to include more than the love of just one woman. If he’s a romantic Casanova he may try to woo women all the time, just to feel good about all the love he experiences in the world.

8. He doesn't want to be Committed : A lot of guys have the fear of commitment. And just when they feel like they’re falling deeply in love, they pull back or they have an affair just to convince themselves that they’re not into you.

9. They want variety: All of us want new experiences all the time, but some selfish and immature men take this adage one step too far and start looking at other women as wooing potentials, not because they’re unhappy in love, but because they want more variety in their bed!

10. He wants a new experience: A guy may be the most loyal of lovers, and he may be the perfect boyfriend or husband. But at times, for no reason at all, he may start pursuing a new girl just to remember how the thrill of the chase feels like. If both of you start to feel bored in the relationship, it’s only a matter of time before one of you start straying just to make life feel more exciting.

11. Some men loves to cheat: It’s who they are. And there’s nothing you can do to change them. It could be a deep rooted psychological issue, or perhaps they just don’t care about relationships.

12. Understanding: There can be happiness in a marriage or a relationship only when there’s communication in a relationship. If your man feels like you just don’t understand him anymore, he may find himself getting attached to someone else who listens to him.

13 You’re boring: Are you a prude who doesn't like discussing sex? Or are you a homely woman who loves her solitude? If your man has an active lifestyle and you don’t share an interest in socializing or having fun outside the house, he may start to find you too boring to stay in love with.

14. You accuse him of cheating: Do you constantly accuse your man of cheating just so he can reassure you and convince you of his love for you? Don’t ever let your insecurity get the better of you unless you have conclusive proof, or you’d just end up forcing him into an affair because he thinks you don’t trust him anyway.

15. A girl is crazy about him: When a really attractive girl falls for a guy and pleads with him to date her or bed her, a man’s macho heart may soften and get mushy, and he may even share a few kisses or cuddles in bed just to make her feel better.

Men and women cheat for almost the same reasons. I’d say that men cheat more for sexual pleasure and sexual experiences while women cheat more for emotional attachment. -->

WHY DO MEN WANT TO CHEAT?

As much as I hate to admit it, men do have a natural instinct to stray.
If they think they can get away with cheating, they cheat.
It’s what their mind tells them to do, even if their conscience tells them otherwise.

A man of principles though, a man who has integrity, may hold himself back even when the opportunity arises. But he holds himself back, not because he doesn't like the thought of having another woman, he holds himself back only because of his integrity.
But truth be told, it is very hard to avoid cheating, especially if no one would ever get to know the truth!

It’s been said time and again that one would never cheat if they’re truly in love with someone.
But is that really true?
If you think about it, you don’t cheat because you’re emotionally carried away in the heat of the moment.
If that moment of lusty temptation does occur, it’s a painful but forgivable accident that lasts for a few passionate seconds.But he holds himself back, not because he doesn't like the thought of having another woman, he holds himself back only because of his integrity.
But truth be told, it IS very hard to avoid cheating, especially if no one would ever get to know the truth!
But if one chooses to cheat or have sex on a one night stand, it’s because they consciously and deliberately decide to have an affair or a onetime fling, and logically plan every step to ensure that they don’t get caught with their boxers around their ankles.

Seriously, any guy or girl who’s ever cheated would know this, cheating is just not easy, especially if you’re living in a society like ours where cheating is considered taboo.
It takes a lot of planning, a lot of covering up (faking expenses, faking work hours and faking weekend escapes and a lot more!) just to enjoy an hour or so of sexual pleasure that turns to guilt as soon as you orgasm and reach for the skies.
So when a guy makes the effort to cheat, it surely means there’s something wrong somewhere else. [Read:15 REASONS WHY MEN CHEAT ON WOMEN] The cause could be a failing relationship or a mind that’s addicted to the thrill of straying.
Or worse, it could mean that he’s so smitten by another woman that he doesn't care about his own lover who loves him and cares for him, and he’s willing to throw it all away for someone else.

Every man and woman in a relationship has the ability to cheat and destroy a relationship if they choose to. But the rules of society have altered our minds to accept cheating as a moral aberration in our conscience. But unless you have no moral conscience whatsoever, guilt inevitably enters the picture when you cheat on a lover. And you can’t ever look at your lover the way you once did.

Men who are in stable and comfortable relationships want to cheat for three primary reasons.

#1. There’s not enough happiness in his life. The man who wants to cheat thinks he’s too good for the woman he’s with *he thinks he can get another girl who’s better than his own woman*.

#2. He contemplates cheating if his ego is bruised *his woman doesn't respect him, doesn't think highly of him, doesn't need him emotionally or sexually, or his pride hurts because of her behavior*.

#3. The third reason why men want to cheat completes the rest of the list. Men want to cheat because they assume they can get away with it without getting caught.

If one partners feels like they’re not getting enough out of the relationship, or if the other partner feels like they’re giving more than they’re receiving, the relationship may change course towards the inevitable end or lead one partner to the lusty and cowardly road of affairs and one night stands. -->

HOW TO CONFESS YOUR LOVE FOR A GIRL AND NOT GET REJECTED

Confessing your love to a girl could seem scary. But it’s really easy!
 
If you’re not sure how to ask a girl out, you have no reason to feel silly about it.
Every guy’s been there at least once in their lives! Sometimes, it takes a risky plunge to master an art.
And all of us have to start somewhere, don’t we? Sometimes, you may not realize it yourself that you’re falling for a girl, and almost always, it may be a good friend of yours. So what do you do then?

Do you confess your love to her and risk severing ties with her because of the awkwardness the confession could create, or should you just clam up and watch her as she’s whisked away by another smooth talker? Friends fall in love with each other all the time.
Sometimes, it’s a little crush that’s soon forgotten. And at other times, friends hook up or have a fling that eventually ends. And in the worst case scenario, the guy hides his feelings for this friend, until the point where she starts dating a new guy. And then, he barges up to her, and tells her that he really loves her and has always loved her, and wants her to love him! [Read: HOW TO ESCAPE THE FRIEND ZONE]

Well, this may work in the movies, but in real life, if you ever do something like that, you’re definitely setting yourself up for failure. She’s never known that you like her or desire her, and now out of the blue, you expect her to drop her new found love and start dating a guy she’s only seen as a friend for all these months or years? Really, does that even sound right to you?

If there’s one piece of advice you really need, it’s this. Don’t be brash and reckless and say things in the heat of the moment when you want to confess your love to a girl, and more importantly, don’t wait forever and expect things to just magically fall into place because you love a girl and don’t have the balls to fess up! If you want to confess your love to a girl, let her know what’s on your mind.

Well, just use these five easy steps, and you’ll see just how amazingly easy it can be.

#1. START TALKING TO HER: Is she a friend, or is she someone you walk past occasionally? The first thing you need to do is to find a way to get to know her better. Get her attention and make a great first impression when she’s around. Arousing a girl’s curiosity and making her think you’re a great guy can make things a lot easier for you. On the other hand, if you’re a shy guy who doesn’t like being the center of attention, you can always get to know her through her friends or through a common acquaintance.

#2. SHOW OFF YOUR FUNNY BONE: The easiest way to get closer to a girl and make her feel comfortable around you is by using humor. Girls love a guy who’s funny, and it works wonders with women because humor always takes the awkwardness out of any conversation. And even if there’s nothing much to talk about, making a girl laugh will make you memorable in her eyes.

#3. TEASE HER & FLIRT WITH HER: The easiest way to get closer to a girl and make her feel comfortable around you is by using humor. Girls love a guy who’s funny, and it works wonders with women because humor always takes the awkwardness out of any conversation. And even if there’s nothing much to talk about, making a girl laugh will make you memorable in her eyes.
Charm her and compliment her often. Let her see that you notice the little things about her that makes her pretty. If she’s wearing something nice, compliment her about it. If she looks great, tell her she looks really pretty. When you’re trying to woo a girl, always let her know that you find her attractive.

#4. GET CLOSE TO HER:  Try to spend more time with her, especially when no one’s around. It’ll make her feel comfortable around you, and at the same time, she’d start craving for your company and miss you when you aren’t around. Try to do things together, call her often and ask her for her advice and help. Asking a girl for advice, be it about clothing, your life or anything else will always make her bond with you and get closer to you.

The biggest deterrent for guys when it comes to confessing their love is the fear of rejection. But think of it this way, the worst a girl could say is ‘no’. Of course, it’ll hurt. But it’s still way better than clinging on to a mad hope that she may see just how much you love her someday. By not telling a girl how you feel, you’re only making yourself feel miserable. And what would you do if another guy starts making a move on this girl you like? But whatever the reason may be, don’t ever let the fear of rejection hold you back from expressing your feelings. You’ll always regret hiding the truth from her.

Don't wait until its too late to tell someone how much you love, how much you care, because when they're gone no matter how loud you shout and cry, they won't hear you anymore.

As long as you follow these steps on how to confess your love to a girl, and avoid getting hasty or reckless at any point of time, you could surely make a great impression and make her like you even before you tell her that you like her!
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