SILLY BAD HABITS THAT CAN HURT YOUR RELATIONSHIP

All of us have a few bad habits that we don’t realize. Sometimes, these habits could be silly or cute.
But at most other times, these subconscious bad habits could end up hurting you or distancing you from the one you love.

When you fall in love with someone, you can’t see their bad habits, at least not until you’re past the stage of infatuation. And likewise, your partner won’t see the bad in you because they’re so smitten by you and your love for them. But once the rose tinted veil of infatuation sweeps past your eyes, it’s only then that the nagging habits start to reveal themselves.

See these bad habits to know if you’re hurting your lover without realizing it.

1. YOUR WAY.

Do you constantly like having things your way? It could be as silly as watching a genre of movies you enjoy or going out to places that you like. [Read: TOP TWO THINGS THAT LEAD TO BREAK-UP] Your partner may find your tantrums cute to begin with, but if you always want things your own way, there will come a time very soon when your partner would snap and just hate everything you like because they’re so sick of it!

2. SILENT TREATMENT.

Do you choose to ignore your partner instead of talking about something that’s hurt you? You’re not alone. Many men and women would rather sit down in the corner and stare at the ceiling than answer their partner when they’re annoyed for some reason. Never do that because you’d only end up hurting your partner, make them feel miserable, and hate you at the same time.

3. "I DON'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT".

Avoiding discussions, especially if it’s stressful may seem like the easy thing to do at a particular moment. But stuffing all the difficult conversations in some dark corner will only leave you more stressed, and leave your partner frustrated and angry. As difficult as a particular decision or a relationship conversation may be, you can solve it only by talking about it with your lover. Remember, every journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step.

4. YOU LIE.

For the silliest of reasons! And you just can’t help yourself. You may be lying to your partner because you’re afraid of their temper, or because you don’t want to appear weak in front of them. The reasons could be several, but the end result is almost always the same. Lies affect relationships negatively, and will lead to loss of trust. Stop lying and learn to confront the truth, you’ll have a much better life.

5. MAKING A SCENE IN PUBLIC.

Don’t yell at your partner or humiliate them in public or when someone else is around. Your frustrations may be valid and you may have every good reason to accuse your partner of something, or walk away from them. But ridiculing your partner or hurting them in public will do a lot of damage to their ego, and that’s something that won’t heal very soon. [Read: LITTLE THINGS THAT LEAD TO BREAK-UP]

6. TAKEN FOR GRANTED.

You know your partner’s sweet and caring. And you love them for it. But do you remember to appreciate your partner and thank them for all the little things they do, be it finding your keys or opening the doors for you? You may think it’s silly to constantly thank your partner for every little thing they do. But chances are, you may start taking these sweet gestures for granted even before you realize it, and they’d turn into expectations instead!

7.  TESTING YOUR PARTNER.

You intentionally make big demands or throw tantrums just to see if your partner cares enough to go the extra mile for you. These petty tests are rather common at the start of a new relationship when you’d want your lover to prove their love for you, but don’t carry this habit into the later stages of love or your constant games and tests would annoy your lover

8. PLEASING YOUR LOVE.

You try really hard to please your partner, but you get really upset when your partner doesn’t realize you’ve done something for them. And yet, you continue to do nice things for them all the time *which they take for granted* and eventually turn into a relationship martyr. If your partner takes you for granted, talk to them about it. Bottling your rage or sadness will not help you. Perhaps, your partner didn’t even realize that you’ve done something sweet for them. Communicate and express yourself now and then, and stop trying to be a helpless people pleaser.

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HOW TO MAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP BETTER

Loving relationships can last a lifetime, but many relationships fail to last a lifetime because couples don’t know how to make a relationship work. [Read: RELATIONSHIP]

One reason why love fails for many couple, it’s because most of us don’t understand that love is fickle and changing. Love lasts forever, and it’s true. [Read: LOVE]  But no one ever said love stays the same forever. And that makes all the difference between having a great relationship and just living together under one roof.

In the start of a relationship, either of you may try to please your partner every day with affection and gifts. But this can’t go on forever, or your relationship would end even before you know it. If you’re not attracted to your partner, mentally and physically, of course, love will stop evolving in your lives.
The start of a relationship is always exciting because you’re learning new things about your lover every day. But as the months pass by, the conversations drift to ‘how was work’ and ‘how was your day’. Why does that happen? Well, simply because you have nothing else that’s exciting enough to talk about
To make your relationship better, use these two tips.

1. DO SOMETHING INTERESTING
Most couples stop trying to please their partner as the years pass by and love is way past the wooing and impressing phase. If you’re not  trying anything new or special now and then, you’re definitely taking your partner for granted. If you’re wondering how to make your relationship better, learn to keep your relationship interesting. Have an occasional night out together, and pick up little gifts for each other now and then. Explore new sides of love and experience new joys together. New experiences keep the relationship exciting and new, and that can help bring both of you closer.

2. SPACE
For a relationship to work out, you need to spend a lot of together time, and yet you need to give each other enough space to miss each other. Spending time with friends or doing something you personally enjoy can make you a better individual. And as long as you evolve as a person, your relationship will evolve too. [Read: SIGNS THAT YOU HAVE A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP]

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HOW TO FIND YOUR SOULMATE

Many of us spend all our lives searching for the perfect partner. But it can be really easy to know how to find your soulmate if you understand these tips.
Use these ten tips and you’ll walk closer to your soulmate sooner with every passing day than you can imagine. And the happy journey to finding your soulmate [READ: SOULMATE] would be an experience of a lifetime too!.

1. BE THE BEST YOU CAN BE

Look into the mirror. Are you happy with what you see? If you do want to find your perfect soulmate, you need to take steps to be perfect too. It’s always easier to get the attention of soulmate potentials when you look your best and feel confident about it.

2. KISS A FEW FROGS

Life isn’t a movie, and unlike a movie shoot, you can’t have retakes when you find yourself in the company of someone who’s definitely not your soulmate. But that isn’t really a bad thing. It takes a bit of trying, testing, dating and falling in love to understand what you really need from a potential soulmate. Be prepared to kiss a few frogs and soon enough, you’re going to be standing in front of your true soulmate. But that’s only if you take chances in love.

3. LIVE YOUR PASSION

Do you like dancing or cooking? Live your passion if you want to know how to find your soulmate. When you participate in activities that you like with other people, you’re bound to meet a lot of people who share the same passion as you. If you do find someone you like when you’re living your passion, it’ll bring you a step closer to finding your soulmate.

4. TRY NEW EXPERIENCES

Are you having a hard time finding someone who excites you? Are you looking in all the right places? Are you even looking outside your own little world? Most of us like the comfort of our own little world. We don’t like to try new things or meet new people. But if you do want to find your soulmate, you need to step out into the big world and experience new things. If your friends invite you to a concert, wedding or a birthday party, don’t back out. Try new things, explore possibilities and live your life to the fullest. And almost always, you’d end up meeting the love of your life at a new experience, when you least expect it.
The best part of all this is that you don’t really need to put a hold on your life while searching for love. Instead, you can live your life to the fullest. Life has a great way of throwing happy surprises when you least expect it.

5. BE WILLING TO CHANGE YOUR MIND

You may be looking for your soulmate for a while now, and you may have your own list of requirements. But don’t ever use a list of pointers to pick your lover. Always be willing to compromise. As you grow and evolve as a person, your idea of the perfect soulmate would change too. Don’t ever be rigid when you’re looking for love. Just go with the flow and listen to what your heart tells you.

6. DON'T TURN DOWN OPPORTUNITIES

Is a good friend of yours trying to fix you up on a blind date? Don’t brush the thought away. Whether it’s about dating someone new or meeting a new group of friends, don’t turn down opportunities to interact. To understand how to find your soulmate, you need to keep your eyes open. Love is mysterious, and it’s completely unpredictable. And that’s what makes finding your soulmate so magical and exciting!

7. DON'T SETTLE UNLESS YOU'RE HAPPY

Compromise in love, but don’t bend over backwards trying to please your current partner. Love is about compromise, but it has to be both ways. If you fall in love with someone and don’t really feel excited about it or find that you’re trying too hard to make it work, step out of it and don’t look back. This may seem selfish, but true love should be effortless. Walk out and continue the search for your soulmate if you ever find that you’re not happy in a relationship. There’s a perfect partner who’s looking for you too, so why stay in an unhappy relationship when you can be blissfully happy when you do find the one.

8. DATE SOMEONE WHO UNDERSTANDS YOU

When you’re searching for your soulmate, you may have to end up diving headfirst into a few relationships. If you’re lucky, you may find your soulmate the very first time you fall in love, or perhaps, it may take a few more times than that. Always date someone who can really understand you and your mind. You really don’t need to finish each other’s sentences as long as both of you can understand each other’s wants and desires.

9. CHEMISTRY AND EXCITEMENT

Now that you’re in the dating scene and waiting to find that special someone who you can call your soulmate, look out for chemistry and attraction. You may meet a great guy or a girl who may be perfect, but sometimes, love is a funny thing. It can bring two great people together, and yet, both of them may feel no excitement towards each other. Always look for chemistry and attraction in a relationship. Do you feel excited to be with the person you’re dating? If you can’t feel electricity surge through your spine when your date runs their hand on your back, or don’t feel blissfully weak after a first kiss, well, perhaps, you’re missing out on a bit of that all important chemistry that soulmates have.

10. UNDERSTAND THE TRUTH

You may search high and low for that perfect lover, but you have to understand this fact if you want to know how to find your soulmate.
Soulmates aren’t born, they’re made. Soulmates are created with love and compromises, and they’re given shape by two lovers who understand, respect and cherish each other. If you find yourselves falling more in love with each other with each passing day, and if either of you do your best in your own little ways to make each other feel better and more loved, you’re on your way to becoming soulmates.
But always remember this, you still need to walk through the first nine steps to really understand the truth.
After all, two incompatible people can never become soulmates. It requires more than love and attraction, it requires unconditional love and the will to compromise for each other’s happiness to truly become soulmates.
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SOULMATE

We spend several years trying to find that perfect partner who can fill our lives with happiness and love. Sometimes, we get lucky and meet the love of our lives at the very first real date. And at other times, it takes a bit of searching and prodding. But the truth is, there’s a soulmate for every one of us. And there’s a great chance that they’re right around the corner and looking for love too.

Understanding how to find your soulmate [READ: HOW TO FIND YOUR SOULMATE] isn’t as hard as many portray it to be. It really isn’t as hard as finding a needle in a haystack. As a matter of fact, it’s as simple as taking a walk in the park. Hopefully, a short walk!

You can sit back and wait for love to find you, and it may never really happen.
At times, it takes a bit of an adventure to meet the one who can take your breath away.
If you really do want to know how to find your soulmate, start taking chances in love.
The sooner you start to take an initiative to find that elusive soulmate, the sooner you’d find your knight or damsel.

“To say that one waits a lifetime for his soulmate to come around is a paradox. People eventually get sick of waiting, take a chance on someone, and by the art of commitment become soulmates, which takes a lifetime to perfect.”
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WAYS TO DEAL WITH A CHEATING MATE

Here are five effective ways to deal with a cheating mate and help rebuild a relationship:

1. APPROACH WITH CAUTION

Step carefully when first raising the issue of your partner’s infidelity. Don’t charge in, full of righteous indignation, throwing around accusations. Your partner will only become defensive, and you may destroy any opportunity to rebuild the relationship later down the road. Instead, ask questions like “I've noticed you've been distant lately, why is this?” If you seem concerned and interested rather than angry, he/she’ll be more likely to open up to you.

2. TALK IT OUT

Once you’ve opened the lines of communication, honesty is of the utmost importance. Carefully examine all aspects of your relationship. Was your cheating mate simply foolish, or was he/her mistake the result of serious problems in your relationship? [Read INFIDELITY IN RELATIONSHIPS] Perhaps you devoted too much of your attention to work and neglected your relationship. Honest communication will be tough and time-consuming, but it’s the only way to identify the problems between you. Instead of making him/her feel guilty, consider your own faults first. Is there anything you did to prompt his/her behavior? If you and your companion can discuss the flaws of your relationship, you have a good chance at correcting them. Small changes can go a long way!

3. PROBLEM SOLVE

Actions speak louder than words. It's one thing to have a long conversation about your troubled relationship, but if you're not ready to solve the problems, there’s no hope of fixing what’s wrong. If he/she says you didn't seem emotionally available, believe him/her. Make a special effort to tune into him/her more from now on. If he/she says you simply weren't around enough to satisfy his/her needs, then designate one day a week as a “date night” and go out to dinner or stay in with a movie and some popcorn, just the two of you. If you truly respond to his/her complaints and requests, it’s unlikely that she’ll feel the need to cheat again.

4. FORGIVE AND FORGET – IF YOU CAN

This is probably the most difficult step to rebuilding your relationship. You may be able to say that you understand why your partner cheated, but unless you can truly let go of her past, your relationship is doomed. It's possible the relationship isn’t salvageable – is he/she simply someone who can’t be trusted? If so, if you “forgive and forget” and it happens again, you feel like a fool. If, after talking out you problems, it turns out that you gave him/her no reason to cheat, it may be that his/her own personal issues led him/her to be unfaithful.

If that’s the case, then nothing you do or say will keep him/her in your arms and it's best to move on. But if you feel your relationship still has potential and you’re willing to do what It takes to make it work, then you’ll need to devote all of your compassion and understanding to empathizing with your partner or else there’ll always be a wall between the two of you.

5. KEEP COMMUNICATION OPEN

Now that you've had a good, long talk about why he/she cheated and discussed ways to solve the problems of your relationship, what can you do to keep your partnership intact? The answer’s simple – keep talking. If new problems, even small dissatisfactions, arise then speak up! And don’t fall victim to “what’s good for the goose is good for the gander” thinking – running away from the relationship and into the arms of somebody new is not a solution. If you’re sorely tempted to be unfaithful yourself strictly out of pain or revenge, talk to your partner about it. You may be able to negotiate changes that will help the two of you rebuild your relationship, or you may find you want to seek counseling. Of course, you may end up choosing to separate – but any of these alternatives are better than infidelity.

If your worst fears are confirmed and he/she is cheating, don’t feel sorry for yourself and act like a victim. Relationships take two people to succeed or fail – it’s very likely that you made your share of mistakes, too. Nobody’s perfect. Weigh the potential of your relationship and decide if it’s worth the work involved in saving it. If so, keep these five steps in mind, and get to work. You may find that the two of you become closer than ever before as a result.
Good Luck!

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