*He says he’s not relationship material.
Listen to what he says. If he says that he’s not looking for a relationship, he doesn’t believe in marriage, he’s not relationship material, or he’s just “having fun,” don’t try to read beyond those words. Either he’s not into you, or he’s not into commitment in general. Take him at his word and move on to someone who values relationships the way you do.
*He encourages you to date other people.
If your date encourages you to date other people, it’s not because he wants to experience the enlightenment that comes with multiple dinner-plans partners; he’s just not into you enough to want you all to himself. If he’s still dating other people and you’re at a stage where you feel you should be exclusive, then he’s not ready to commit to anyone. If he talks about those other girls, then he tells them about you, too. A man who is into you will want you exclusively and would be incredibly uncomfortable at the thought of you making romantic plans with other men.
*He won’t hold your hand in public.
You kiss in private, but he won’t go near you when you’re out in public. If he doesn’t want people to think you’re a couple, he probably introduces you to people you run into as his “friend,” right? you probably aren’t one, or shouldn’t be. You want to be with someone who’s proud to be associated with you.
*He avoids introducing you to his friends and family.
If he neglects to meet your family or don't want you to meet his parents, he’s probably not into you; especially if you’ve been dating for a while. No, you don’t need to meet Mom and Dad after date two, but when you sense an avoidance strategy, he likely has one foot out the door. A guy who’s nuts about you will want his family and best friends to know how great you are, too.
*He doesn’t return calls within 24 hours.
First, if you’re the only person calling and texting, evaluate your date’s interest in the relationship. Secondly, if your texts are consistently not getting responses within 24 hours, he’s not into you. When you’re crazy about someone, you can find thirty seconds to respond, even if it’s just a quick explanation as to why he’ll have to respond in greater detail later. Don’t hound the object of your affection, but expect him to be respectful enough to respond when you try to contact him.
Biggest red flag ever: If he doesn’t actually ask you out, he’s not into you. A man who wants you will make sure you know it. [Read:85 FACTS ABOUT GUYS]
Looking back, what were signs in your past relationship that he wasn't interested? How long did it take you to see the red flags?
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