HOW TO ABSTAIN FROM SEX IN A RELATIONSHIP

In the Region i find my self today, SEX is the order of the day; for money or for the price of being in a Relationship (long or short term). In some societies, religions, or simply personal preference, people may choose to abstain from SEX until marriage.It is a matter of choice but most individual find it difficult to make and stick to the choice of ABSTINENCE.

If you want to stay SEX-FREE with your boyfriend or girlfriend, i suggest you follow these tips.

*Have a discussion about your views/reasons for abstinence.  Engage your partner in a good give and take discussion about your ideas concerning the timing for sex. Seek their input, but explain where you stand, so there will be no misunderstandings later.

*Be active together.  In your free time hike, bike, swim, walk, exercise, play sports, and so on. Get up and go out, working your muscles, to relieve pent-up tensions, visit friends, reading books or you can start writing.
 
*Spend time together in public places away from home. Do not study together at home, for instance, go to the library or school classroom where you can not do things in private.

*Do NON-SEXUAL activities. Do things together that are not necessarily sexual, like playing games (likes of cheese, scrabble or monopoly) or other activities such as giving each other massages (not romancing), shampoos, pedicures, and manicures.

*Be loving. SEX is not LOVE, so don't confuse SEX for Love. Without SEX, you can show your LOVE for your partner by kissing, holding hands, hugging, sitting close, cuddling, snuggling, and so on.

*Meet with other people. Have group meetings with like-minded people to reinforce your ideas concerning SEX, giving each other feedback and a chance to describe strategies to help you abstain.

*Give your partner positive feedback. Do not take him/her for granted. Compliment him/her on his/her looks, mental prowess, and skills with hobbies or sports, for example. Tell him how much you appreciate him being on the same page as you are as far as SEX goes.

*Remind your partner that abstinence is not forever, and there will come a time when you will have SEX. Talk with him about making plans for that time.

*Finally if you can't deal with any of the above tips, i advice you to AVOID any form of relationship with the opposite sex. "AVOIDANCE IS BETTER THAN PREVENTION". What you AVOID, you don't need to PREVENT it from happening. -->

2 TIPS TO SPOT MISS WRONG

This post is for my Male Folks cos i don't want them to feel or think that I'm bias, So i got this one for you guys.. To be honest there are more than 2 Tips to spot Miss. Wrong, please i advice you to use the Tips on my last post [Read: Ways To Spot Mr. Wrong] cos you can use the tips also to spot Miss. Wrong (Vice Versa).

If you are a man venturing into the dating world, here is a subject dear to your heart. How to steer clear of the woman who is likely to grab your life and shake it upside down by the ankles (In my Country Nigeria we call them Destiny Killers).

The sad fact is, most Miss. Wrong are unlikely to reform for your sake, and you deserve better than they are able to give. If these characteristics describe someone you are with, take the hint and pull the plug.

1. You Find Yourself Feeling Drained: The surest sign that you’re entangled with someone wrong for you is how you feel at the end of an evening together. This requires self-diagnosis, because your time together is never completely frustrating. But if you pay attention to your mind and body after being with her, you’ll notice which are the dominant feelings — energized and alive, or drained and a little depressed.

2. She Is Hypersensitive To Rejection: Miss. Wrong is always right and will react strongly to any suggestion otherwise or criticism. If you ask her to be more reliable, she says you should be more supportive of the demands on her time. Request that she respect your boundaries, and she accuses you of putting up walls to keep her out. Rarely will she say “I’m sorry” or “I will try to do better.”

Have You Experienced any of the above? 
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