HOW TO OVERCOME HEARTBREAK

 I dedicate this post to a Heartbroken Facebook friend and all the Heartbroken readers out there.

Heartbreak hurts, and there's no denying it. Everyone will find a different way to get over it, but we all find being dumped or losing a loved one very hard. Easier for some people, but harder for others.

Below are 8 Steps to Overcome or get over Heartbreak.

1. Don't be embarrassed to cry. You've been hurt - expect the tears to keep coming. There are few people who can get over heartbreak without shedding tears, so let the tears flow. If you bottle up your feelings, you'll only end up making yourself feel worse later. Let everything loose and don't hold anything back.

2. Take your mind off. Find something to help take your mind off your heartbreak for a while, the feeling will pass with time. Engaging yourself in activities you enjoy will help you relax.

3. Talk to your friends and family. That's what they're there for! A good friend you trust will be a good person to talk to. A parent or sibling may also be a good choice.

4. Focus on moving on. Focus for a while on your career and family. If you help someone else out, you'll feel good, and have a chance to take your mind off the pain. Good times are a great way to help you get over heartbreak. Keep on going with your day and focus on your work. [Read:HOW TO AVOID HEARTACHE.]

5. Keep it in perspective! Think about the positive things in your life, and what you have left. Think about what you can do with your future, and don't let your loss destroy the rest of your life too. Letting the feeling overcome you will lead you down a road that isn't too pleasant.

6. Rebuild your life. Get engrossed in new things, and try not to look back on the past. The more you move forward, the less it will hurt. Keep yourself occupied, so you don't have time to be upset. Keep moving forward. [READ: EXPECTATION LEADS TO HEARTACHE]

7. Talk to a professional. You may need to see a psychologist or other such professional person if your grief is really destroying your life. A professional will care and will know how to help you. They can almost certainly offer further and better advice, encourage and motivate you in the right direction.

8. Accept it. You might never quite be happy about the event that caused your heartbreak, and you might always shed tears thinking about it, but eventually you will find that you can live without it getting in the way. Just remember that every relationship is a learning experience, and every learning experience will positively effect your future. Time heals all wounds, so they say, but I say "Time doesn't heal anything.. it just teaches us how to live with the pain" especially in the case of heartbreak.

With the above steps you are on your way back to being yourself.

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85 FACTS ABOUT GUYS

 There are so many Facts about us (Guys) which about 80% of us do exhibit. I made a List of 85 Facts which after reading you may come across few that your Man (If you are in a relationship) or your friend has been showing off.

1. Guys learn from experience not from the romance books that girls read and take as their basis of experience.

2. You can tell if a guy is really hurt or in pain when he cries in front of you!

3. If a guy suddenly asks you for a date, ask him first why?

4. When a guy says he can’t sleep if he doesn’t hear your voice even just for one night, hang up. He also tells that to another girl. He only flatters you and sometimes makes fun of you.

5. Guys seek for advice not from a guy but from a girl.

6. Girls are allowed to touch boys’ things. Not their hair!

7. If a guy says you’re beautiful, that guy likes you.

8. Guys hate girls who overreact.

9. Guys love you more than you love them if they are serious in your relationships.

10. Guys don’t actually look after good-looking girls. They prefer neat and presentable girls.

11. Guys hate flirts.

12. A guy can like you for a minute, and they forget you afterwards.

13. When a guy says he doesn’t understand you, it simply means you’re not thinking the way he is.

14. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend.

15. Guys want to tell you many things but they can’t. And they sure have one habit to gain courage and spirit to tell you many things and it is drinking!

16. Guys cry!!!

17. Don’t provoke the guy to heat up. Believe me. He will.

18. Guys usually try hard to get the girl who has dumped them, and this makes it harder for them to accept their defeat.

19. When you touch a guy’s heart, there’ s no turning back.

20. Giving a guy a hanging message like “You know what? Uh… never mind!” would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking.

21. Guys go crazy when girls touch their hands.

22. Guys are good flatterers when courting but they usually stammer when they talk to a girl they really like.

23. “Are you doing something?” or “Have you eaten already?” are the first usual questions a guy asks on the phone just to get out from stammering.

24. Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.

25. When a guy really likes you, he’ll disregard all your bad characters.

26. Guys go crazy over a girl’s smile.

27. Guys will do anything just to get the girl’s attention.

28. A guy finds ways to keep you off from linking with someone else.

29. Guys love girls with brains more than girls in miniskirts.

30. Guys virtually brag about anything.

31. Guys cannot keep secrets that girls tell them.

32. Guys fantasies are unlimited.

33. Girls height doesn’t really matter to a guy but her weight does!

34. Guys tend to get serious with their relationship and become too possessive. So watch out girls!!!

35. It’s not easy for a guy to let go of his girlfriend after they broke up especially when they’ve been together for 3 years or more.

36. You have to tell a guy what you really want before getting involved with that guy.

37. When a guy makes a prolonged “umm” or makes any excuses when you’re asking him to do you a favor, he’s actually saying that he doesn’t like you and he can’t lay down the card for you.

38. When a girl says “no”, a guy hears it as “try again tomorrow.”

39. You have to tell a guy what you really want before he gets the message clearly.

40. Guys love their moms.

41. A guy often thinks about the girl who likes him. But this doesn’t mean that the guy likes her.

42. You can never understand him unless you listen to him.

43. If a guy tells you he loves you once in a lifetime. He does.

44. A guy has to experience rejection, because if he’s too good, never been busted, never been in love and hurt, he won’t get matured and grow up.

45. When an unlikable circumstance comes, guys blame themselves a lot more than girls do. They could even hurt themselves physically.

46. Guys have strong passion to change but have weak will power.

47. Guys are tigers in their peer groups but become tamed pussycats with their girlfriends.

48. When a guy pretends to be calm, check if he’s sweating. You’ll probably see that he is nervous.

49. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl. He really is.

50. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he’s just actually saying, “Please come and listen to me”

51. Guys don’t really have final decisions.

52. When a guy loves you, bring out the best in him.

53. Like Eve, girls are guys weaknesses.

54. Guys are very open about themselves.

55. No guy is bad when he is courting

56. Guys hate it when their clothes get dirty. Even a small dot.

57. Guys really admire girls that they like even if they’re not that much pretty.

58. Your best friend, whom your boyfriend seeks help from about his problems with you may end up being admired by your boyfriend.

59. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don’t need to give advice.

60. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.

61. A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.

62. A guy’s friend knows everything about him. Use this to your advantage.

63. Don’t be a snob. Guys may easily give up on the first sign of rejection.

64. Don’t be biased. Try loving a guy without prejudice and you’ll be surprised.

65. Guys are more talkative than girls and especially when the topic is about girls.

66. Guys don’t comprehend the statement “Get lost” too well.

67. Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions but still love them more.

68. When a guy gives a crooked or pretentious grin at your jokes, he finds them offending and he just tried to be polite.

69. Guys don’t care about how shiny their shoes are unlike girls.

70. If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him.

71. If a guy has been kept shut or silent, say something.

72. Guys believe that there’s no such thing as love at first sight, but court the girls anyway and then realize at the end that he is wrong.

73. Guys like femininity not feebleness.

74. Guys don’t like girls who punch harder than they do.

75. A guy may instantly know if the girl likes him but can never be sure unless the girl tells him.

76. A guy would waste his time over video games the way a girl would do over her romance novels and make-ups.

77. Guys love girls who can cook or bake.

78. Guys like girls who are like their moms. No kidding!

79. Guys tend to generalize about girls but once they get to know them, they’ll realize they’re wrong.

80. Any guy can handle his problems all by his own. He’s just too stubborn to deal with it.

81. When a problem arises, a guy usually keeps himself cool but already thinking of a way out.

82. When a guy is conscious of his looks, it shows he is not good at fixing things.

83. When a guy looks at you, either he’s amazed or he’s criticizing you.

84. When you catch him cheating on you and he asks for a second chance, give it to him. But when you catch him again and he asks for another chance, ignore him.

85. If you have a boyfriend, and your boy best friend always glances at you and it obviously shows that he is jealous whenever you’re with your boyfriend, all I can say is your boy best friend loves you more than your boyfriend does. [Read:SIGNS HE'S NOT JUST INTO YOU]

You can add yours to the List by leaving a comment.
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EXPECTATION LEADS TO HEARTACHE

I saw this pinned on pinterest some time ago (thanks to Megan for pinning it!) and thought it would make a good blog topic.

Most of us have expectations for the people in our lives, and we expect life events to go a certain way, especially if we've planned them. Having some expectations is a good thing - you don't want to be living with a vagabond fool spouse or endure crappy working conditions because you didn't strive for better - but getting too caught up in expectations is setting yourself up for disappointment. Having a baseline of how you should be treated is good - going off the rails based on unrealistic expectations is not good.

To avoid disappointment and heartache in almost any situation, examine and adjust your expectations.
When things don't go how we think they should, we say "Why me?" or "It's not fair!"To the first point, why not you? To the second, it's my contention that nothing in life is fair - we all have a different concept of what fair is, and 99.9% of the time the universe does not provide a fair that two of us can agree on. We're not always going to get what we expect, or what we think we deserve. That's just a fact of life. [Read:HOW TO AVOID HEARTACHE.]

"Life is not a matter of holding good cards, but sometimes in playing a poor hand well." 
It sucks to feel let down by someone important to you. People are not mind readers, and even though we think they should know what we need or want because they know us so well/long/etc, the fact is that sometimes we have to tell them. Now, if you tell them and they STILL suck, give them the boot.

*Consider having zero expectations...
"If you expect nothing from anybody, you're never disappointed."
If you expect nothing, you can never be disappointed. We all have expectations. We not only have them, we need them. They fuel our dreams, our hopes, and our lives like some super-caffeinated energy drink.

That would be nice, right? But we all know that it's unrealistic to go through life with NO expectations. They sneak in the sides of our mind and whisper to us, beckoning us to believe and hope and expect good things. Being conscious of them and managing them is what's important, along with always knowing that you are the captain of your own ship. You can't expect others to fix things for you - that's your job. It's nice when they do, but don't depend on others to improve your universe. You are in charge of your life.

The sooner we learn that life isn't fair and things aren't always going to go our way, the happier we'll be. Going into something with little expectation is very freeing. You can be pleasantly surprised with a good outcome, and at the very least you'll appreciate the small things you miss when you're busy thinking about how things should be going differently. Managing expectations means less time wasted waiting for our desired outcome and more time being present and living.
The only person on this earth who is responsible for your happiness is you.

The moral of the story is that managing your expectations will increase your overall happiness in any SHIP you find yourself (Relationship, Friendship, Courtship e.t.c).
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WHY MOST RELATIONSHIPS FAIL

Relationships fail often. It’s a fact of life. Most Relationships fail because of Trust issues, Commitment issues and Communication issues.

The problem, though, is that some people learn that their relationships are headed for failure, and they learn it the hard way.
So if you’re aiming for a relationship that’s practically fail-proof, you’d have to know some of the reasons why so many relationships end badly.
The failure of a relationship can be attributed to one or a combination of the following factors.
So if you find that your relationship is facing these problems, it may be best to try and work it out so it doesn’t ruin the hard work you’ve put into your relationship.

 1. DOMINANCE. This is the opposite of sacrificing too much. Instead, you expect your partner to be at your beck and call, or else, they will be sorry! Instead of fostering a relationship based on love and trust, you’re instilling fear into your partner.
What this does is force your partner to be miserable and helpless or it can lead them to lie, sneak around or even find someone else’s shoulder or bed just to avoid your wrath and their misery.

2. JEALOUSY. If you’re the one who’s jealous, you’re probably always going to be snooping around to check if your partner is faithful to you. Just one instance of you seeing them chatting with someone whom you consider a threat, and you’ll unleash a barrage of accusations.
On the other hand, if your partner is the jealous one, you may find yourself sacrificing your happiness just so you don’t get hit with the barrage of accusations.

3. SEEKING JOY FROM YOUR PARTNER. This is common among people who have either low self-esteem or have very few good things going on in their life. The problem with this is that it may put too much pressure on your partner. How? It will always feel like your partner has such a huge role in your life, and that without him/her, you’d be a miserable heap of tears. This kind of dependence is not healthy in any kind of relationship!

4. MUCH SACRIFICE. There may be times when you forego your own desires so you can make your partner happy. This is called a sacrifice.
But if you keep doing this and your partner learns that they can easily ignore your wants, you’ll start to feel your sacrifice taking its toll on you. One day, you might wake up and feel so used that you end up snapping and breaking up with your partner.

5. SELFISHNESS. Selfishness in both of you will lead to a tug-of-war for who gets the final say in things. You can’t always get what you want, and neither can your partner. If neither of you are willing to compromise to make your relationship work, then you can both find someone who’ll be more accommodating to your every want and need. Good luck with that!

6. FINDING FAULTS. Honesty matters in a relationship. But being too blunt about your partner’s faults all the time may make them feel they’re always under your constant scrutiny. Not only will you slowly pick at their self-esteem, but you might also push them towards the arms of someone who’s much more accepting of their faults.

7. NO TIME. Even if you both have a busy lifestyle, you still need to set aside time for each other just to keep the relationship going. A five-minute phone call or a text exchange may be enough to let you work through a time when you’re too busy for anything.
If you don’t spare even a few minutes for your partner, neglect starts and that will definitely eat away at your relationship.

8. DISTANCE. There’s nothing wrong with having a long distance relationship. In fact, some relationships are tested and made stronger by the physical distance. However, the distance can bring about problems such as a lack of time for each other or lack of physical intimacy.
Unless you make an effort so you can finally be in the same zip code, these relationships usually break under the strain.

9. AMBITIONS. When you get deeper into a relationship, you may find out that you and your partner may have different goals for the future. One of you may want to focus on your career, while the other would like to start a family soon. This can lead to conflict when it comes to making big decisions in your life. If left without compromise, the rift in your desires may end up causing a rift between the two of you.
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REASONS WHY A GIRL MAY FLIRT WITH YOU EVEN IF SHE HAS A GUY

Girls and guys are pretty similar when it comes to attraction. And both sexes like attention. But while a guy with a girlfriend tries to woo a girl, he does it because he wants to win her or he’s sexually attracted to her.
But a girl with a boyfriend could have many other reasons to get your attention. Here are 6 reasons why a girl who’s dating a guy may want you.

1. Just for fun! She likes your attention. Period. She wants your attention and she wants you to like her because she likes it.

2. She’s hot stuff. A girl with a boyfriend may want your attention just to convince herself that she’s still sexy and all that, and hot enough to win your attention. She wants an ego boost, and she’s using you to get it!

3. She’s unhappy. Her boyfriend may not be giving her enough attention, or he may be a bad boyfriend who doesn’t treat her right. She’s unhappy, and being with you makes her happy.

4. She wants more. Some girls are just annoying and a pain in the backside. They may have a perfect relationship with their own boyfriend, but they still want more. Perhaps, her boyfriend’s attention isn’t enough for her. And now she wants yours too.

5. She’s genuinely attracted to you. The girl you like may really like you, and she may love your attention too. But she’s dating a guy and she doesn’t want to lose him because she does think he’s a great guy too. She’s got a crush on you and she doesn’t plan on doing anything about it.

6. Moral dilemma. Every now and then, you may come across this scenario where the girl with a boyfriend genuinely likes you and wants to date you. She may be unhappy in her own relationship, and she may truly believe that she’d be happier in your arms. But she’s too nice to break up with her own guy, because she doesn’t want to break his heart.
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